Well News recently published a profile on Women in the Rockies, our wellness retreat at C Lazy U Ranch in Granby, Colorado. They even blasted it out to their entire newsletter list!
We are honored that Women in the Rockies received a Health Innovator award from Well News and we encourage you to read the article. We need to include two clarifications about our program. Women in the Rockies is a wellness adventure retreat. Our program is open to women seeking a retreat with like-minded women, who enjoy time with horses and nature. Our assistant coaches this year are Moriah Hanson and Ginnie Eldridge.
Read the Article on Well News
Women who attend our annual retreat leave with a new set of goals along with the tools to implement them. We attribute their clarity and commitment to change as a byproduct of the transformative experience of the being on horseback with new found friends in the Rocky Mountains of Colorado in the fall. For us, it represents an emotional and spiritual “stepping back” and being open to what’s possible, a ritual that you can do any time you are ready to consult your heart about what aspect of your life needs revising.
Year end is a convenient milestone to review, reassess, and revise your goals. If you take some time to consider the events of your life in 2018, you will soon discover your internal radar beeping at situations and issues that are ripe for recognition and intervention. A new year offers a clean slate of possibility.
The key to successful goal setting is to identify a specific change you want to make. Hers’s how. Start with “why” it’s so important to make this change. The bigger the why, the greater the odds you will have a breakthrough in implementing this goal into your life. Next list the reasons for change. Like with the why, go big on the reasons. Lastly, map out detailed steps of how you plan to do this.
In my professional coaching practice, we always set goals in the beginning that the client and I agree are achievable. As our success builds, we add more challenging aspects as tolerated. Here are some tips that I find work well for most women who are setting goals.
- Right size the goal to insure it’s achievable.
- Set short interval time frames- 2 weeks to 30 days.
- Be patient with yourself and give your inner critic the month off.
- Expect setbacks and roadblocks.Use them to show off your creativity for a work around.
Remember it’s a process that has a mind of its own. Go with the flow. As long as you do your best with an open heart you will make progress.
For more about professional coaching services I offer, go to HealthCoachAdvantage.com
by David Solie
Like the unforeseen and unavoidable forces of the avalanche that wounded this mountainside, life delivers its own set of deep wounds that leave all of us barren and scarred. And when this happens, we are sure that no good can ever come from it and for a while, that seems true.
But behind the scenes of all wounding, deeper forces are at work mobilizing the recovery process. For the mountains in Colorado, aspens are summoned to infiltrate the scared mountainside bringing with them new energy, beauty and healing. Their mission is not to erase the wound. Instead, their work is to transform the wound into an unimaginable and inspiring beauty from what was barren and scarred. And clearly, they do.
For humans, a similar opportunity exists to transform wounds into ways never thought possible. But like the mountainside, it cannot do it alone. All of us need the aspen-like forces of love, friendships, nature, animals and community to infiltrate our lives and do their magic. But their transformative power doesn’t end with us.
At some point in recovery, we come to understand that our suffering has given us a unique authority, empathy and responsibility for those who have sustained similar wounds. And with it, our journey of personal transformation suddenly expands into a divine prelude for coming along side others who are in desperate need our support. What had once left us barren, scarred and hopeless becomes a “sacred wound” that brings hope, courage and comfort to those who need it the most…
Tell me something.
What happens when you wake up one day and you’re 70 years old and you never left?
What happens when you never skinny-dipped in mountain pools because you weren’t comfortable with how your tummy looked or never wrote that book because you didn’t have anything to say?
What happens when you never told him or her you are in love with the fire in their soul regardless of what others thought?
What happens when you never sold off what didn’t matter and pushed off for that adventure calling your name?
What are you left with when you have tried to please everyone except your own wild soul?
Regret. You are left with regret.
Please take the chance.
Dance under the stars.
Drink the wild air.
Swim in the chaotic sea.
Howl from the mountain tops.
Ride without fear.
Be the woman you have always longed to be, and arrive at old age breathless and with a thousand years worth of stories to tell.
You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience where you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do.Eleanor Roosevelt
Living with fear is no stranger to my world after surviving breast cancer for five years. The diagnosis of early stage invasive breast cancer brought a level of fear I had never experienced before, a dark, ugly presence that was intent on taking over my life. This was an ultimatum I couldn’t ignore. Either I found a way to redefine cancer’s meaning and purpose in my life or it would figuratively and literally bury me. The choice was obvious but it required two things that I didn’t have at the time.
First I needed to find the right horse that I could declare as mine and whose presence in my life would be a constant source of healing and comfort. It had to be a special horse who would be strong and fierce like I needed to be to fight cancer. Second, I needed a new purpose and direction in my life, a mission that represented and mobilized my dreams, passions and values that would allow me to connect with like-minded women, nature, horses and wellness. A few days after radiation treatment in California ended, I headed out to where I intuitively knew I could find both of these change agents. There was only one place to go: C Lazy U guest ranch in Colorado.
I arrived in bad shape. Battered and hurting from open radiation burns covering my swollen breast and with my estrogen levels at near zero, I was riddled with inflammation and arthritis from head to toe.
My frail condition was obvious to the ranch’s head horse wrangler, Bill Fisher when we met the next day to discuss the horse I would be riding. With a keen certainty in his eye, he said to me, “I have just the horse for you to ride this summer.” And with Bill’s words, my post treatment life shifted into a renaissance. That’s when Lady showed up and not a moment too soon. She was an eight year old, gray mare quarter horse who had arrived a few weeks earlier as a new string horse for the ranch.
Lady with her posse.
Lady was a true alpha mare with three gelding groupies, Rudy, Sky and Irish who followed her everywhere, and hung at the gate as I tacked her up every day. She had a powerful influence over the herd of 200. To the ire of Bill and his team of wranglers, she was known to take the entire herd in the wrong direction during the jingles.
She brought a fierce love to our relationship from the very beginning. Our connection was instantaneous and deep. She sensed I was hanging on by a thread, physically frail, and mostly terrified of the cancer returning. Her message was always “I am here, I got your back and let’s get on the trail.”
On the trail, she would signal with her body language where wildlife was and then wait for me to choose what to do. Over time, she knew once we found something, most likely I would stop and want us to both look at it before moving on or in the case of a bull moose standing in the middle of the trail, change our direction.
I rode six days a week all over the 8,000 acre ranch with old and new friends and guests that summer. It was healing in motion as Lady and I enjoyed endless trails and long lopes. But with the close of the season, I had to say good-bye to Lady. After all she was the ranch’s horse and not mine. Or so I thought.
Destiny had a different plan for Lady and me. Through an unexpected miracle, my husband found a way to give me Lady for Christmas that year. It’s his story to tell but the eternal thanks are owed to Leslie and Don Bailey, co-owners of the ranch who made an exception of the heart to override the cardinal rule of never selling a string horse to a guest or member of the ranch.
The three essential truths about conquering fear of riding
At Women in the Rockies, I teach three essential truths about horses and riding that when utilized, reduce rider anxiety and the chances of getting hurt. It is simple stuff. It begins with choosing the right horse for you, utilizing a simple ground work routine with your horse before getting on, and bringing to your horse an intentional calm presence.
1. Start with the horse
It’s essential to start with the right horse and by right horse I mean a safe horse for the kind of rider you are. When I look back, I had lots of years with wrong horses who were spooky, nervous or too reactive or required a trainer several days a week to keep my horse safe enough to ride. Now in my early 60s, I would never ride a horse like that again because as we age our reflexes are slower and our bones are more fragile. Riding the right horse is even a bigger priority if you are managing a chronic illness, stiffness or pain as a horse related injury may take weeks to months for recovery.
Find an older, quiet, well-trained horse that is open to building a strong trusting connection with you. Horses like this aren’t easy to find, but are true gold once you own this kind of horse. They just keep giving back and with time become your soul mates in the journey of aging.
Spending summers on a guest ranch all these years, I have seen first hand the criteria the ranch uses to keep their guests safe. They only have horses that are calm, quiet, trusting and a bit curious. Unexpected things happen on the mountain trails that often we can’t control or anticipate. An older horse that comes with training and experience is a better choice than one you intend to raise as a project.
2. Stay on the ground
Riding an alpha mare like Lady at the beginning of summer, who has been off during the long hard Colorado winters offers challenges. Bill Fisher, a few years ago said, “You know Janet, you would have a better horse if you learned and did ground work everyday before you rode her.” Bill is a man of few words, but his sage advice is based on over 50 years of managing a 200 herd of horses and matching thousands of guests with ranch horses. With his insight in mind, I began the process of learning ground work.
Ground work is the key to moving your horse’s feet both on the ground and in the saddle. There many advantages that come from ground work, but the big one for riders is establishing yourself as the leader with your horse by using your body language to communicate with your horse. Bonus benefits include a soft horse who is a real partner in just about everything you do together.
Ground work can keep you connected to your horse even when you can’t ride. Last summer I sprained my ankle and was stuck in a walking boot. Lady and I did ground work several times a week while my ankle healed. For me ground work is something we do in a quiet place for just a few minutes before heading out for a long trail ride. Her body language as she walks and trots in a circle and bends tells me her general state of being and gives me a powerful tool to shape her attitude before I get on.
For a real education, you might want to observe a Buck Brannaman Foundation Horsemanship clinic this next year. Buck Brannaman is a world-renowned expert when it comes to connecting to your horse through groundwork. Go to http://brannaman.com/bbclinics.html for the 2018 schedule. Most likely you will need to bring a chair, and a hat. Spectating fees are $30/day.
3. Stay calm
Horses mirror our feelings. If we get scared or anxious, they reflect back fear. If we are calm, focused, and mindful, they reflect back those same feelings back too. The easiest way to calm your horse on the ground and in the saddle is to use specific horse communication skills. These skills are beautifully described in book called HorseSpeak the Equine-Human Translation Guide by Sharon Wilsie and Gretchen Vogel.
Sharon Wilsie teaches us that we can all be better riders by cultivating an inner zero and an outer zero when we are with our horses. Inner zero is your quiet place on the inside which allows you to be more present. In my experience this includes slow deep deliberate breathing when approaching and handling your horse. Horses hear our breathing with super human hearing abilities. If we hold our breath, they sense that as “something is up.”
Horse trainer and author Wilsie has a key response for when your horse spooks that I find helpful. Start with saying, “That’s curious” which neutralizes the feelings and fears you are having and gives you and your horse a moment to choose a better response. The idea is to stay calm, present and breathing slow no matter what your horse is doing.
Ami and Trigger
A couple of summers ago, I was working with Ami Cullen, director of operations at C Lazy U and all-around equestrian expert at the ranch. She had a new, young buckskin quarter horse, Trigger tied up at the manger. She brought out the blanket and saddle, and he flew back, fell down and continue to flail about for a few minutes. Those watching held our collective breath, but Ami was all zero. Her body language expressed no reaction to his blow up. She calmly and deliberately waited until he was done, untied him and tacked him up. He quickly pulled himself together and focused in on her calmness and slow deliberate moves. It was remarkable to watch.
A year later using her skills and inner zero, Trigger has become a very sweet horse. What Ami did that day was bring her outer zero skills too. She moved around the horse with planned deliberate gestures. What I have learned is that horse communication is mostly quiet body language. Our horses prefer us to move with purpose, and quiet confidence that signals leadership and that “all is well.”
For more information about HorseSpeak you can find Sharon Wilsie’s Youtube videos, Horsespeak on Facebook or check out her book.
For information about Women in the Rockies at C Lazy U ranch in September, 2018 go to our schedule page here.
Courage is not doing something in the absence of fear but knowing that something else is more important than fear. So we do it.Tsem Tulku Rinpoche
And we did it, a bigger and better program with twenty-three women from across the country who came together in two small groups at C Lazy U Ranch for our third annual Women in the Rockies Wellness Adventure. Collectively, we generated of wave of courage and inspiration that spread across the network of our lives including bystanders who were intrigued by what we were up to. All of us witnessed how “what we were up to” grew day by day, a collective synergy that nurtured and supported our goal to find a better game plan for our lives. And that’s just what we did. We found a better plan.
We believe that this year’s program had a deep resonance for most of you. We firmly believe in the transformative power of the program’s connections, to each other, to your horse and to the immense presence of Colorado Mountains in the fall. We watched how they all conspired to calm you down and give your heart the space to exhale.
It was also gratifying to see attendees who were less experienced riders expertly grooming their horses and becoming the leader of the rider-horse partnership through gentle ground work.
Trudi and I know how important these memories are for all of us as we return to the deafening buzz of “life back home.” They provide a 24/7 restorative reservoir of moments and images you can draw upon at anytime you want to reconnect to the emotional landscape of the retreat. It proves a wonderful antidote for the exhaustive transaction density of the world we live in.
We appreciate and value your evaluations. We are a work in progress and welcome the opportunity to learn about ways to fine tune and enhance the Women in the Rockies going forward. This includes finding the optimal balance between free time, horse time and program time.
Lastly, the ranch has begun re-booking for our 2018 program, which will be just one session. They are holding twenty cabins for our group and offering a special discount of 10% off if you book and pay your deposits by October 31, 2017. Based on the returning attendees and the waiting list of those who want to attend for the first time, we anticipate selling out again this year. We also want to encourage you to consider trip insurance. As we found out this year, life is messy and unpredictable and the insurance is a good hedge against things that are out of your control.
Janet & Trudi
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